Why are we fighting about the same old shit.
According to couples therapy researcher Howard Markman, there are three themes that underpin conflict in relationship. When we identify these dynamics – based on an unmet need, vulnerability or bias – we can better manage arguments and their resolution.
The 3 hidden dynamics driving conflicts in relationships.
Why do we find ourselves in the same fights over and over again? These repeated conflicts can speak to a broader dynamic – a need, vulnerability or bias that is activated or unresolved. Couples therapy researcher Howard Markman defines three ‘hidden dimensions’ that underpin how and why we fight.
When we understand these dynamics we can work towards managing conflict with less anger, more understanding & potential for resolution.