SEEKING SUPPORT TO IMPROVE SEX, PLEASURE AND RELATIONSHIPS IS TOTALLY NORMAL.
SEEKING SUPPORT TO IMPROVE SEX, PLEASURE AND RELATIONSHIPS IS TOTALLY NORMAL.
Certified Sex and Relationship Practitioner.
Over the years I have supported hundreds of individuals and couples to feel more comfortable and confident about sex and relationships. I work with a range of sexual concerns and curiosities, my approach is sex positive, shame free, inclusive and trauma informed.
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Somatic sexology is a specialist approach that merges somatics (bringing awareness to the body) and sexology (the scientific study of sex), to support clients through a range of sexual concerns or curiosities. To break it down further - it’s basically a body-mind approach to help you have better sex, relationships and pleasure.
COACHING, EDUCATION, EMBODIED COUNSELLING
COACHING, EDUCATION, EMBODIED COUNSELLING
Individual, couple, and professional development sessions available
Somatic sexology is the integration of somatics (focusing awareness through the body), with sexology (the scientific study of human sexuality).
In session you can expect to work with 'top down' approaches including classic talk based processes as well as somatic 'bottom up' approaches working with pioneering insights of neuroscience, somatic learning theory, embodiment and awareness of the body. Top down therapy often starts with how we are thinking, and bottom up therapy often starts with what we are feeling in our bodies. When it comes to working with sex, pleasure, relationships and trauma, we need to address what’s going on in the mind and the body. In session, you will have the opportunity to discuss, share, process, learn and feel as we work with a range of modalities, tools and frameworks.
These sessions are co-created and client led. I’m a big believer in learning by doing - at the end of each session I offer options for take home practices to implement everything we’ve worked through in session.
All people are welcome and respected, sessions are LGBTQIA+ inclusive and safe.
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Sexual desire: desire discrepancy (aka mismatched libido), changes in desire, sexual frequency concerns
Individual inquiries: sexual confidence, dating confidence, sexual stress or anxiety, feeling more present during sex, orgasm concerns, anatomy & pleasure, eroticism & sexuality
Relationship dynamics: Communication skills, Non Monogamy, building trust, creating safety, learning about each others needs, having better sex, exploring new things, boundaries & consent, expressing & voicing desires, relationship choices and dynamics
Sexual Function: premature ejaculation, erectile dysfunction, pre-orgasmia, difficulties with orgasm & climax, performance anxiety
Painful sex: Vaginismus, general pain and discomfort, fear of pain leading to anxiety around sex
Trauma: a body-mind and somatic approach to working with trauma
Can't figure out whether your concern falls into these areas? Get in touch and I'll point you in the right direction
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Certified Somatic Sex Educator, Institute of Somatic Sexology, 2017
Certified Somatic Sex Coach, Institute of Somatic Sexology, 2018
Introductory Certificate in Embodied Counselling, Institute of Somatic Sexology, 2019
Professional Certificate in Working with Vaginismus, Eros Coaching & Institute of Somatic Sexology, 2020
Certificate for Gottman's Model of Repair in Relationships, 2021
200 Hour Trauma Informed Yoga Teacher Training, The Yoga Impact Charity 2021
Like a Pro, The Wheel of Consent for Professionals 5 day training, Dr Betty Martin School of Consent 2023
Certificate in Embodied Counselling, Institute of Somatic Sexology, 2023
Member of Somatic Sex Educators’ Association of Australasia
BA Communications (Journalism) UTS
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I receive a minimum of 3 hrs of Supervision each month: Individual, Group and Peer Supervision. My supervision focuses on Somatic Theory, Trauma Informed Approaches, Embodied Therapy, as well as the modalities of Psychology, Sexology and Counselling.
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Who do you work with?
Everyone is welcome!
Will this benefit me if I'm single or inexperienced?
I work with all people regardless of their relationship structure/choice or level of experience. The sessions will be useful for anyone who is committed, curious and interested - and does the work outside of session!
I want to bring my partner but I'm not sure how to tell them:
This is very common, it may feel tricky to broach the discussion of seeking support. If this is the case, speak about the benefits of participating in the sessions together. Rather than focusing on what's 'wrong' with them or your relationship, speak about the potential. If the conversation feels too overwhelming or doesn't go according to plan you can book in a consultation session and we can work through the best approach for you, your partner and your relationship.
What if my partner doesn't want to attend sessions?
If it is a relationship issue or concern - it will be most useful to participate together, but if your partner isn't interested, willing or able there will be activities, ideas and even practices you can take away and integrate into your relationship. It's important for you to know; you are responsible for your own body, pleasure and experience. So if you attend sessions on your own, go you!! Even if you do the sessions on your own, it will have an impact on your relationship.
Do your sessions include touch?
Sessions are clothes on hands-off, I do not touch clients. If you would like to experience touch one-way or two-way touch I’d recommend looking into services provided by a sexological bodyworker or a sex worker.
I'm slightly nervous, will I feel safe?
Every single person who’s walked through my door has felt nervous in our first session together. Grounding, safety and agency are fundamental to our work. You will be at your learning edge, but you will have total autonomy the whole time. Each session is tailored to you and how you are showing up on the day. It is common to feel uncomfortable, awkward, anxious or nervous at first as speaking about sex is like learning a new language (and I wouldn't expect you to speak fluent German in our first session). You may feel uncomfortable and that's ok!
How often can I book in a session?
This depends on your schedule and mine, you may book in weekly, fortnightly, monthly etc whichever supports you most.
Will you give me homework?
Yes! At home practices are a really important extension of the work we do in session. You learn by doing, we can’t talk our way to better sex - you have to experience it, practice, explore and experiment. The homework I set creates an opportunity to integrate, reflect, explore and learn between sessions.
28 High Holborn St, Surry Hills