Why do we cry after orgasm?

Cum to crying pipeline. Ever shed a tear after tearing up the sheets? You may have experienced post-coital dysphoria (PCD): an unexpected negative emotion that occurs after sex. It’s completely normal and quite common – read on for more about this fascinating phenomenon.

What is PCD?

It’s an umbrella term – one that relates to a variety of intense emotions that can occur after sex. A study by the journal Sexual Medicine found that half of surveyed people had experienced symptoms of it at least once in their lives. PCD covers everything from crying after orgasm, to feeling anxious or depressed – so what gives?

PCD hasn’t been extensively researched, but there are a bunch of theories about why it happens.

• One study hypothesised that PCD could be genetic, a result of past trauma or a state of high reactivity after the physical and intimate nature of sex (Sexual Medicine, 2015).

• Crying is a release. Emily Nagoski, the sex educator, researcher and author, writes that “Crying is about intensity”. We all know the feeling of relief after a good cry – it makes sense that post-coital tears can accompany the physical release of climax, or the emotional intensity of connection. 

• Hormones at play. Sex causes a number of hormones to flood our bodies – especially feel-good ones like oxytocin and dopamine. The rise (and eventual drop) of these hormones after sex can also trigger feelings of sadness or anxiety.

Seeking support.

It’s normal to feel the spectrum of emotions during and after sex – we can have euphoric highs and intense connection as well as vulnerable, overwhelming  or insecure moments. However, if you find you’re experiencing PCD often – if it’s impacting your relationship, sexual desire or sense of self – it might be worth speaking to a trusted professional or loved one. 

For more info and stats on PCD, check out Normal’s complete guide via Normal here.